| Copyright © 2009 Carolyn Burke - Wedding Liaison |
Ceremony Guide and Tips
Remember, the ceremony is the real wedding, so don't neglect it in the whirlwind of
planning your reception.
Exchanging your vows will be both a public and a private pronouncement of the love
you two share, and you'll want it to be unique and meaningful.
Options abound for making a ceremony uniquely yours.
Many couples prefer a traditional religious ceremony, officiated by a clergy member and personalized with selected
readings, poems, original vows, or symbolic candle lighting. Others might prefer a civil ceremony performed by a public
official, or a non- denominational ceremony for a ritual essence without religious restrictions. And if you're an
interfaith couple, you may choose an ecumenical ceremony where an officiant from each faith is present.
Whatever you desire, your ceremony should satisfy both your feelings and beliefs, and it should acknowledge the
serious nature of the commitment you're making.
It's up to the two of you to decide whether you will follow that exact format or add your own touches. Here are some
suggestions.
Readings and Prayers
Readings and prayers may be used to turn even the most strictly religious ceremony into a highly personalized event -
or to bring a note of spirituality to an ecumenical ceremony. You might choose a scripture that has special meaning to
you, or read a prayer that represents your feelings about marriage.
For non-religious readings, there may be a romantic poem or even a song lyric you'd like to include.
Rites & Rituals
Ask your officiant about religious or cultural rituals to incorporate into your ceremony. For instance, some
African-American couples honor their heritage by 'jumping the broom' as a symbol of jumping into a new life together.
Candle ceremonies (often called a 'unity candle') are very popular. The altar is prepared with three white candles, which
symbolize the love that the newlywed couple will keep burning for each other throughout their marriage. After the
vows, the bride and groom light the third candle with the flames of their individual candles, representing the unity of
marriage. I have also seen sand, water, wine, a lasso, and handfasting used in a wedding ritual.
No Regrets: Planning the Ceremony of Your Dreams
Make sure you get to know your officiant enough to be sure that this is the person you want to join you in marriage -
and be sure he or she knows how to pronounce your names.
If you're combining different faiths or cultural traditions in your ceremony, or incorporating an element your guests may
not be familiar with, don't leave them in the dark. A program explaining the ceremony will help them share its
significance with you.
Don't sweat the small stuff. It doesn't really matter if your Unity Candle won't light or your flower girl doesn't make it all
the way down the aisle; what counts is that you truly believe in the vows you're making to each other.
Article from BridalGuide.com
Remember, the ceremony is the real wedding, so don't neglect it in the whirlwind of
planning your reception.
Exchanging your vows will be both a public and a private pronouncement of the love
you two share, and you'll want it to be unique and meaningful.
Options abound for making a ceremony uniquely yours.
Many couples prefer a traditional religious ceremony, officiated by a clergy member and personalized with selected
readings, poems, original vows, or symbolic candle lighting. Others might prefer a civil ceremony performed by a public
official, or a non- denominational ceremony for a ritual essence without religious restrictions. And if you're an
interfaith couple, you may choose an ecumenical ceremony where an officiant from each faith is present.
Whatever you desire, your ceremony should satisfy both your feelings and beliefs, and it should acknowledge the
serious nature of the commitment you're making.
It's up to the two of you to decide whether you will follow that exact format or add your own touches. Here are some
suggestions.
Readings and Prayers
Readings and prayers may be used to turn even the most strictly religious ceremony into a highly personalized event -
or to bring a note of spirituality to an ecumenical ceremony. You might choose a scripture that has special meaning to
you, or read a prayer that represents your feelings about marriage.
For non-religious readings, there may be a romantic poem or even a song lyric you'd like to include.
Rites & Rituals
Ask your officiant about religious or cultural rituals to incorporate into your ceremony. For instance, some
African-American couples honor their heritage by 'jumping the broom' as a symbol of jumping into a new life together.
Candle ceremonies (often called a 'unity candle') are very popular. The altar is prepared with three white candles, which
symbolize the love that the newlywed couple will keep burning for each other throughout their marriage. After the
vows, the bride and groom light the third candle with the flames of their individual candles, representing the unity of
marriage. I have also seen sand, water, wine, a lasso, and handfasting used in a wedding ritual.
No Regrets: Planning the Ceremony of Your Dreams
Make sure you get to know your officiant enough to be sure that this is the person you want to join you in marriage -
and be sure he or she knows how to pronounce your names.
If you're combining different faiths or cultural traditions in your ceremony, or incorporating an element your guests may
not be familiar with, don't leave them in the dark. A program explaining the ceremony will help them share its
significance with you.
Don't sweat the small stuff. It doesn't really matter if your Unity Candle won't light or your flower girl doesn't make it all
the way down the aisle; what counts is that you truly believe in the vows you're making to each other.
Article from BridalGuide.com
| Carolyn Burke - Wedding Liaison All Couples ~ All Faiths ~ All Budgets Saint Louis MO and Metro East IL (314) 821-4844 |